LinkedIn's Censorship: My Story of Discussing Male Sexuality as a Woman

When I started sharing content around male sexuality and Tantra for men on my LinkedIn account, I anticipated various reactions and discussions to unfold. However, what happened was truly unexpected and, frankly, quite shocking.

After stepping away from the corporate world nearly ten years ago, my focus shifted to creating content for women and supporting them through experiences of domestic violence.

This journey significantly altered my perspective. I noticed that while women typically receive some form of support when facing challenges, men often seem left out of the conversation entirely. It's as if their struggles are overlooked. This realization motivated me to become a certified coach specializing in men's relationships and sexuality. I've always been deeply intrigued by the role relationships and sexuality play in causing pain for many of us.

With past roles in influential positions within renowned international brands, I've built a strong network of CEOs, CFOs, and Directors, many of whom were connected with me on LinkedIn.

Changing my LinkedIn title wasn't a straightforward decision. I worried people might mock me or consider my new focus strange. Additionally, there was a fear of receiving inappropriate messages from men or having my offerings about sexuality misunderstood.

I transitioned my title to a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach and launched a podcast where I shared the tantric perspective on sexuality, which I believe brings liberation for both men and women.

Reluctantly, I began sharing this content on my LinkedIn platform. Initially, it felt incredible to receive messages from former colleagues who enjoyed my podcast, encouraged me to create more content, and even hired me as their coach. As a result, my network began to expand exponentially, as did my client base.

After a couple of years, once I felt confident enough in my coaching abilities, I decided to start sharing content specifically tailored for male leaders in the corporate world.

Their experiences in coaching not only inspired me but also shed light on the profound struggles they face and the overwhelming sense of isolation in which they navigate them.

Through posts and blogs, I explored topics that resonated deeply with my clients, such as erectile dysfunction, their relationship with pornography, their fantasies, lack of desire from their partners and the challenges they encounter in their romantic relationships.

The response to this content was not only overwhelming in terms of engagement but also heartwarming.

My LinkedIn following grew very fast, many of whom were very influential men worldwide.

I received numerous messages expressing gratitude for sharing this content. Many thanked me for giving voice to experiences they had felt but never articulated, and for shedding light on these issues. Men from various backgrounds found something valuable in my content.

After almost a year of creating and sharing, to my surprise, LinkedIn shut down my account, citing violations of their content policy over what they labeled as "sexual content." While I had been flagged on Instagram and Facebook in the past for posts about feminine sexuality, those bans were lifted after appeals. However, LinkedIn did not offer me this option. Instead, my account was permanently shut down.

This incident threw me into a dark period of depression, sadness, and desolation. I found myself unable to write until now, almost four months later.

I completely understand that LinkedIn, like all social media platforms, operates using algorithms. However, it surprises me that in this age of AI advancements, a platform as prominent as LinkedIn has yet to develop discerning algorithms that could facilitate thoughtful discussions about sexuality in a professional manner.

Yet, here we are in 2024, facing censorship by an algorithm created by a human that seems to believe: if it's a woman discussing sex with men, she must be a whore. She must be offering sexual services (which is perfectly fine as long as it's consensual between adults, but I don't offer sex, I offer coaching online!). Sex is taboo, and we shouldn't talk about it. NEVER.

I'm genuinely shocked to encounter this censorship on a platform like LinkedIn, where we should all feel free to proudly share our work with like-minded individuals.

I am a sex, love, and relationship coach with over 25 years of study in tantra and philosophy. Is there something inherently wrong with that?

Must we conform to societal norms and choose professions that are deemed morally acceptable for social media?

Why should it be an issue for a woman to discuss sex with men? Shouldn't we strive to normalize these conversations to foster healthy sexuality for all genders and sexual preferences? How is it possible that in the 21st century, we are censoring sexual information while porn proliferates unchecked and increasingly portrays violence? Why is the algorithm hindering men from accessing information about sexuality? Are we still resorting to blaming and shaming women who courageously raise their voices to talk about sex? Would the reaction be any different if I were a male gynecologist discussing female libido on LinkedIn? Or a male researcher exploring the female orgasm? What does Linkedin think a sex coach does?

These questions have been weighing heavily on my mind, and it just doesn't sit right with me. It's not just about me; it's about all those men who are struggling to find information that could genuinely help them overcome their challenges in relationships and sexuality.

Information should be readily available to everyone, men are left with very few resources around their sexuality other than pornography. Is this the sexuallity we really aspire to as a collective? As a sex coach I can guarantee you that it is not.

To me, this feels like a modern witch hunt that brutally silences my voice. And honestly, at times, it's downright exhausting, making me consider backing down and engaging in lighter conversations to avoid risking my account being censored and loosing content.

But I refuse to retreat because this matters—male issues matter. Even though it's challenging, I will persevere in pushing these conversations forward, boldly and compassionately.

Today, I want to pay tribute to content creators like Cam Fraser and Pablo Mas, who are fostering incredible conversations on Instagram about male sexuality. As for myself, I'll be seeking out platforms that appreciate and celebrate my voice instead of censoring it. In the meantime, you can connect with me on my personal blog.

I invite you to join me in sharing this content far and wide, not only to raise awareness but also to advocate for the freedom of speech in social media platforms.

It's time to challenge the status quo and demand that these platforms implement algorithms that foster open dialogue and respectful discourse about important topics like sexuality.

By amplifying our voices and pushing for change, we can create a more inclusive and supportive online community where everyone feels empowered to speak their truth without fear of censorship.

Together, let's work towards a future where sexual education and discussions are welcomed and celebrated, rather than silenced.

Share this content, spark conversations, and let's pave the way for a more liberated and enlightened digital world.