Awakening Epic Pleasure

When people ask me in social contexts what do I do for living there are two questions that they often ask: "How can I feel more pleasure?" or "What can I do if sex got boring?"

I always reply to them with another question:

"Why are you not feeling pleasure?"

Responses vary – long relationships, no time, routines, or unsatisfying experiences. Trust me, if you don't change your relation to sexuality, it will not change even with a new lover, a lot of free time or new experiences.

In order to experience a pleasurable and abundant sexuality, we should start understanding where and how this sexuality is created.

Epic sexuality is born in your brain. Today I want to share with you how this works.

We have three brains. The first one is the reptilian brain, which is instinctive and solely based on survival. It is a very primitive and “animalistic” brain, with one goal in mind: reproduction (or if you’re lucky, pleasure in the form of brief orgasms). When you sexually relate with this brain your sex will be genital oriented, similar to animal mating or porn. Most people have their sexual encounters using this brain. This is a pretty poor sexuality, sadly it’s the most common.

The second brain is the limbic brain, and it’s an emotional brain. Sometimes we have sex using this brain, which is when we usually say we are “making love”. The issue is that what we feel is not always love. Sometimes we also feel sadness, frustration, anger, fear… and we don't allow ourselves to relate sexually with this brain other than with emotions that are “nice”. Accessing this type of sexuality is not easy because we tend to be disconnected from our emotions.

Finally, we have a third brain, which is the neocortex. Here is where great ideas, entrepreneurship, and the most incredible works of art are born. Epic, abundant, and amazing sex is also born in this brain.

So, how do we wake up this creative brain?

Think of it like finding ideas on Pinterest for a DIY project. You start with a pin and end up creating something. Your brain gets this inspiration and creates new neural connections at the service of that new image, to make it come true.

In sex, it’s the same, and this is where we face major cultural problems. The image that we have of sex, which has become our inspiration, is highly influenced by porn. We have never seen anything else.

Our inspiration is quite mediocre. Our brains do not have any image that serves as an inspiration for epic sex.

These images, along with what we consume in the media can hurt and block us physically, emotionally, and energetically. Through these images and education, we have accumulated sexual fear, guilt and a lot of shame.

But there is this wisdom within us that intuits that there is more. You know that this cannot be it. Your energy and your sexual power are ready and excited to awaken, because they know they can. That inspiration that your neocortex needs as an image, I found in Tantra, and you can find it too.

The easiest way to start this process is through visualization, allow yourself to create an image that will help you as an inspiration. Ask yourself:

If I had an epic sexual life:

• How would my life be different?

• What kind of lover would I become?

• What sensations and emotions would I want to experience more often?

With your answers create an image of this sexuality in five senses. What would you see, hear, touch, taste and smell? You might encounter some resistance, allow it and continue to create this image over and over again in meditation. Free your mind and give yourself permission to imagine. The sexuality that you yearn and deserve is available: start with your mind. You will notice a huge transformation in your life.

Want to learn more? Let's chat in a free video call. We'll find out how to make pleasure a big part of your life again. Just reach out to me, and let's start this exciting journey.